I must add here that kuch logo ko izzat raas nahi aati and Farman is one of those people. When Sharmeen said to him ke waise tu ap ami se drte hei and even then you went ahead with all this and when Eesa says to him he did not have the guts to speak in a firm tone with Zubeida, I enjoyed every second of it. Sharmeen and Eesa both asked so many ideal questions from Farman and I was thinking dil ki baat keh di but too bad Farman did not answer. Shakeel cannot just threaten to divorce Riffat every time they have an argument. I must add here that I totally agree with Shakeel’s mother “larai jhagray ke bhi kuch asool hotay hai”. I will be very disappointed in her if she comes back home herself. Someone needs to tell these people that eavesdropping is highly unethical.Ĭan I say that Riffat was the only wife in today’s episode who made me feel good about being a woman! Although I do think that when she told Shakeel that he should not use Raheel (their son) to get her back she was contradicting herself since when she left Raheel with Shakeel I felt like she was the one using him to teach her husband a lesson! Riffat wants Shakeel to break all ties with Bari Apa so at this point she has the “my way or the highway” approach. Sometimes I feel like there are too many people overhearing way too many personal conversations in our dramas and half of the stories won’t even progress if people stop doing that. Firdous overhears Ghazanfar talking to Zubeida and runs to tell her mother with a sparkle in her eyes and a very happy face, although she tries very hard to hide her khushi.
It was also good because it made Zubeida realize how vulnerable she was if she was out on her own. I have to say that I loved the hotel lobby scene because I know that even in five star hotels’ lobbies every woman sitting alone comes across such men. I really did feel like Riffat’s character is there for a reason, it is there to show the difference between the three very insecure wives and the wife who is willing to take the risk and find out that whether her marriage is worth the effort or not. You guys can probably tell that this episode gave me tons to talk about and at the same time it gave me a lot to reflect upon too. Why should wives be insecure only? Why can’t men be insecure for a change? Oh of course Zubeida said it men can find girls their daughter’s age to get married to so no reason to be insecure! Am I the only one who thinks that this play should be a big ego boost for all the husbands out there? In Zubeida’s case things are different of course, Zubeida did not invest in her relationships and therefore there is nothing for her outside the four walls of “Farman’s” house but why oh why is it true for most of the married women? Is it the society? The men in our society? Or the women themselves who are responsible? Yeh dabi dabi dari dari aurtei jo doosri shadi ke naam se itna ghabrati hai, where did they come from? I have another question, how many married women watch this play with their husbands? My husband has always watched Bari Apa with me and today when Riffat’s mother tells her to go back to Shakeel my husband was all for it and I thought that Riffat was probably the only woman in that play who was doing the right thing. In the good old PTV days fathers usually used to say it out loud that the daughter should come back to her parents’ house only as a mayat (beti jaa tu tumhari doli rahi hai lekin wapas tumhari mayat hi aye gi…something like this) but now we say it in a more subtle manner, the message is more or less the same. Zubeida even with all her jah o jalal and bari bari batein had no choice but to go back to Farman because Ghazanfar’s words kept on ringing in her head “tumhara gharoor tumhari khuddari sub us ghar se hai, us ghar se bahar tum kuch bhi nahi ho”…I absolutely do not like the message that this dialogue conveys but at the same time I cannot deny the fact (unfortunately) that this logic holds true not only for Zubeida but for many many girls who have to stay in a marriage because they have no where else to go to. If the last episode of Bari Apa was about the two husbands who had given their wives chaadar and char dewari but not the izzat they deserved, this one most certainly was about three women who are very insecure in their own way.